Four lessons from our self-talk: lesson 2

Lesson 2:  “I  don’t like them (or that)”

When you hear yourself saying or thinking this you should pause and ask:-

What exactly is it that you don’t like about them?

1. Does something they do remind you of yourself?  Perhaps something you don’t much like?
2. Does what they do or who you perceive them to be remind of someone else? 
3. Do you not like them because you envy them?
4. Are they ‘making’ you feel in the shade?

The thing is our perceptions tell us as more about ourselves and how we see our world as they do about the other person.  We label people, often on little real evidence and the don’t bother to re-evaluate these judgments.  If someone is too like us we often see them as potential rivals, but perhaps they could become friends and allies?

We all have comfort zones which we are reluctant to step outside and let ourselves be challenged, it is easier to say “I don’t like that..”  We maybe right, but if we aren’t what new doors could be opened to us, what new pleasures could we enjoy?

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