Archive for April, 2016

Little by little

Monday, April 25th, 2016

It is usually said that leaders need to focus on big picture stuff, but this forgets that even grand plans have to be implemented one step at a time, one day at a time.  It is the same with personal change, you only lose weight ounce by ounce, you can’t jump to pounds or stones.  I know there are programs on TV where they take mega-heavy people and put them through very intense programs with professional trainers and you see them lose 16 lbs in a week but real people don’t do this and it is hard to keep it off if you do it that way too.  Habits and cultures are built slowly, it takes time to change how people behave and think.  So don’t beat yourself up if you are not transforming overnight.  Rather ask yourself “Am I doing the right things?  Could I do it better?”  and if you you are satisfied, keep it up, if you can do better adapt and improve.  Success comes from keeping on keeping on.

Adapt & endure

Monday, April 18th, 2016

I was walking the other week, and came across this ancient yew forest.  Some of the trees were thought to be 2,000 years old and this one was certainly ancient.  One of the things I noticed was that these ancient trees have cracked, broken and twisted over the years, but the fact is they keep on keeping on and here they are in 2016 they are still thriving.  All the modern leadership and management theories seem to say that the only way to thrive is to take charge; these trees prove the opposite.  You can also do well by just letting it all pass you by, doing your own thing and being what and who you are.

Food for thought?

Transformative thinking – 4

Monday, April 11th, 2016

Everybody thinks they are unique and alone

Clearly in one sense this must be true, but we have only our own view of the world and we are the sole inhabitant of our little cerebral desert island.  We therefore tend at times to feel our problems are similarly unique and compellingly important and of course, neither of these are true.  It can feel very overwhelming and isolating when we look at others who seem to manage without all this turmoil.  Social media always paints a glossy representation of good times and successes that others are enjoying.  No one posts pictures of their failures and fears.  Recognising that trying to live up to these false images of others lives is doomed to failure helps us be much more realistic in what we demand of ourselves and out lives. 

Equally recognising that others can struggle, feel small and powerless is an opportunity for us to reach out a helping hand and build bridges to other neighbouring islands. 

Transformative thinking –3

Monday, April 4th, 2016

Your happiness depends on your thoughts!

We don’t necessarily have the power to change our circumstances (at least not in the short term) but we always have a choice about how we feel about them.  As something of perfectionist, I have a little voice that tells me “Things should be like this..” and if they aren’t I can get frustrated and spend time and effort trying to make them conform to my internal vision.  This can be a powerful tool to help me improve, and achieve, HOWEVER… it can also cause all sorts of problems is I expect others and the Universe to conform to my plan!  We all have small child lurking not that deep within our psyche that cries out “That’s not fair!”  But who said Life was fair?  Business seldom is.  Learning to let go of these useless expectations is a very good way of reducing stress in our lives and and helping us deal with the reality of our circumstances. 

“God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.”  Reinhold Niebuhr