Archive for March, 2011

Red nose day

Monday, March 21st, 2011

On Friday I went to my nephew’s school assembly.  They were having a special red-nose day to raise money for Comic Relief.  All the children were dressed up, many wearing red clothes, red noses, red hair and deeley boppers.  The children put on a special show they had written and then collected about £100 from the parents who had come to support them.  It was lovely and moving to watch. 

The thing I found interesting was that when I was their age, indeed when my eldest was their age this couldn’t have happened.  We have witnessed the birth of a whole new folk tradition in this country and it isn’t often one is there to witness it.  We have watched the good intentions of a few move a nation and change the lives of millions all over the world.  They raised more than £74m and I suspect few people in the country weren’t touched by the event that day.

Change can come from a clear desire to make it happen and a willingness to do something different and take a risk.  I wonder what change you could make today if you did this?

Spring blossom… signs of hope

Tuesday, March 8th, 2011

As I drove into London today, the sun was shining, even though it was pretty chilly and we had frost this morning.  I was literally thrilled to see my first trees in blossom, huge white clouds of blossom… I really felt it was a gift.  In many ways this is my favourite seasonal change, and the Japanese in my soul exults when it sees the trees bloom.  They tell us winter is over, that warmer weather in on the way.  In the past it would have meant that there was fresh food on the table after the limited winter fare.  I think we all need a sign things are getting better from time-to-time, and certainly, economically we could do with this now, and on a more personal note, I know we could!

Signs of hope help us on difficult journeys and remind us what we were working towards and it is important in change programs to ensure people can see the light at the end of the tunnel.

“Once you choose hope, anything’s possible.”  Christopher Reeve

Freedom from the insidious power of “I have to…”

Monday, March 7th, 2011

I had a strange awakening this morning.  My plans for the day were already vague as the person I was seeing had lost the use of their car and this freed up my day.  Like everyone I have a list of useful chores I could ‘tick off’ if I used this time, and I‘d feel virtuous about that.  It is a lovely sunny, if chilly, day and being outside and perhaps walking would also be invigorating and make me feel good in different way.  Then again I’d awoken feeling the early signs of bug trying to ‘get me’ and maybe if I just had a gentle day, and finished the book I’m so enjoying; I’d be healthier tomorrow .  Then I thought I could have my mother round for tea and be a virtuous son…. or I could make some bread and that would be lovely for lunch…  So many possibilities, so many choices, so many ways to spend a single day.

I know it is necessary to plan and manage how we use our time, it is after all a key resource, but I so often hear people who are totally driven by these plans and commitments and it blinds them to so much, and by-and-large, leaves them feeling victims in their own lives.  How often do you hear people saying “I’d love to BUT…”  Of course some of the time they are just being polite, but certainly not all of the time.  We all have the power to choose, every minute of every day.  Perhaps it is true that Change (with a capital C) starts with you making a different choice about what you do next…  You might pause next time you hear yourself saying  “I’d love to but” and ask yourself what you truly want, what is really good for you.

I hope you make a positive, enriching and fulfilling choice

“It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.”   Joanne Kathleen Rowling

We’re designed to heal

Sunday, March 6th, 2011

I was talking to a professor of neurological psychology today, and I mentioned that  I tended to be very present focused, in the context of our recent loss.  She mentioned that our brains, like our bodies, are designed to heal and recover from loss, and that this was key part of humans ability to survive and evolve.  I thought this was an fascinating piece of information.  I wonder whether it will give comfort to others who have suffered or be bereaved…?

The unseen path

Wednesday, March 2nd, 2011

I was out walking today and fascinated by how often,even when you were in the right place and very close, you still couldn’t make out where the path goes, and as someone with a love of metaphors, it occurred to me that this often happens in real life too.  How often do we feel that we can’t see our way forward when it turns out that the thing we are seeking is right in front of us?  Sometimes you just have to change our perspective a little bit, in order to find it.  As someone who does coaching sometimes I can see someone’s way forward, but until they can too, there is no progress.

So a little thought for those of you/us who perhaps are feeling a little lost, maybe what you need is hiding in plain sight and you just need to shift your perspective to spot it?  I hope so!

“No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.”   Buddha