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The nature of Time

Friday, March 30th, 2012

I listened to a fascinating talk about the history of time keeping and clocks the other day.  It is a very rich area to explore as we take it so much for granted and assume that time is not only constant, but the very idea of time is equally so.  This simply isn’t the case.  Our relationship with this concept is a cultural one and like most cultural artefacts has evolved over time.  If we go back a thousand years, the only people very interested in time were monks who wanted to know when to pray.  The first primitive western clocks had no hands and simply sounded the time to let the monks know it was time for the next office.  The day was divided into 24 parts in the same way as a sundial and our 12 hour convention only emerged later.  The hands of the clock were designed to mimic the sundial which was what most people used to tell the time, and they travel in the same way as the sun travels in the northern hemisphere.  So if clocks had been invented in China first, clockwise would have been the opposite way round!  England didn’t have a standard time until the railways made it possible to travel far enough, fast enough to move from what were, in effect, one time zone to the next.  Each village merely took its time from the local church clock, and as no one could travel far enough, or communicate fast enough to deal with the next ‘time zone’ it didn’t affect anyone.  The only people for whom accurate time  was crucial was navigators, and the British Navy offered vast prizes to the inventors of a more accurate chronometer, as this provided competitive, strategic advantage to them.

All of this is fascinating in itself, but it is a wonderful example of how social and cultural constructs are not rigid and self-evident.  That as we talk to people from other cultures these things morph and we need to be aware of this.  The importance of punctuality and the rules that govern it change all over Europe.   This is just one tiny example of how complex communication is and why it is so hard to do it with precision.  The first rule is to be clear what you are really trying to say, then framing it in such a way as your audience can understand that.  Even this concept is apparently cultural.  In China and Germany there is an expectation that the audience will work to understand the meaning, in the UK the onus is on the speaker to adjust his message to his listeners! 

Communication is such a vital skill in life and business, and yet hangs on such a fragile thread…

“Behaviour in the human being is sometimes a defence, a way of concealing motives and thoughts, as language can be a way of hiding your thoughts and preventing communication.”   Abraham Maslow

“Communication is two-sided – vital and profound communication makes demands also on those who are to receive it… demands in the sense of concentration, of genuine effort to receive what is being communicated.”  Roger Sessions

2 years on (nearly)

Tuesday, January 24th, 2012

As we approach the second anniversary of Carys’ death, it feels appropriate to take stock and see how things have changed.  Normally when you live your day-to-day life, one day feels much the same as another… until something seismic happens.  We don’t really recognise Change when it creeps up on us gently, one day we are full of youth and vigour and the next we are feeling our age and looking back with nostalgia.

We had our world changing event 2 years ago and suddenly nothing would be the same again.  That isn’t the same as saying nothing would be good again, but at the time it felt that way.  Two years on, my youngest is half way through the university course, that he hadn’t even started back then.  My middle child is months from leaving the university she had only just joined two years ago.  My eldest has changed job and left home.  I spend my time rather differently.  I’m more selective about the work that I do and how I find it.  I recognise I have other priorities these days and have two roles to fill for my children and a gaping hole to fill in my own life.  Much as one might wish it otherwise, these things don’t magically fix themselves, you have to get into the hole and fill it with your own labour.

I write this piece partly in the knowledge that there are others out there who are at a different and darker part of their journey and in the hope that this might help them, and also as a reflection on the different faces of Change, one passive, that sculpts, shapes and erodes without you noticing and the other active that doesn’t happen if you don’t make the effort and do the work.  We so often deceive ourselves into thinking that the former won’t happen and the latter will… Life just isn’t like that!  In both our personal lives and business ones we need to take responsibility for both faces of Change and act to make our plans, our dreams and our desires take shape.

“If you don’t have time to do it right, when will you have time to do it over?”  John Wooden

“Know how to live the time that is given you.”   Dario Fo

Just in time?

Sunday, October 2nd, 2011

How often have you heard the phrase “I was just in time” or “I ran out of time..”?  They are so common place that we scarcely give them any thought.  I have written before about the concept that the only time you can make a change is Now; the past has already gone and the future isn’t here yet.  The reason for this blog is that I have been aware that it has been a long while since I have written and whilst it is true that my personal circumstances have had much to do with that, it is more complex than that.  I rather think I am ‘out of time’ at present.  That is not to say I don’t have enough time, quite the reverse.  I’m out-of-time in the sense that I am not very present in the present.  This particularly odd for me as I am a vey ‘present tense’ kind of person. 

I’m certainly not living in the past, that feels like it is a very,very long time ago.  Nor am I living really in the future, as that is only glimpsed dimly, as if through a fog.  But, oddly, nor am I fully present, in the present; it is like my life is stuck in a traffic jam on the way to somewhere important.  I can’t go backwards, I don’t control my forward motion either so I must merely wait…

I mention all this not to bore you with my personal life, but rather as a little warning as it is my observation that many people fall into the trap of not living or working in the present and everything good is going to happen tomorrow.  If you do not act today, then tomorrow will be much the same or at the very least someone else will control what happens then.

“Time is the coin of your life. It is the only coin you have, and only you can determine how it will be spent. Be careful lest you let other people spend it for you.”  Carl Sandburg

“We must use time as a tool, not as a crutch.”  John F Kennedy

Freedom from the insidious power of “I have to…”

Monday, March 7th, 2011

I had a strange awakening this morning.  My plans for the day were already vague as the person I was seeing had lost the use of their car and this freed up my day.  Like everyone I have a list of useful chores I could ‘tick off’ if I used this time, and I‘d feel virtuous about that.  It is a lovely sunny, if chilly, day and being outside and perhaps walking would also be invigorating and make me feel good in different way.  Then again I’d awoken feeling the early signs of bug trying to ‘get me’ and maybe if I just had a gentle day, and finished the book I’m so enjoying; I’d be healthier tomorrow .  Then I thought I could have my mother round for tea and be a virtuous son…. or I could make some bread and that would be lovely for lunch…  So many possibilities, so many choices, so many ways to spend a single day.

I know it is necessary to plan and manage how we use our time, it is after all a key resource, but I so often hear people who are totally driven by these plans and commitments and it blinds them to so much, and by-and-large, leaves them feeling victims in their own lives.  How often do you hear people saying “I’d love to BUT…”  Of course some of the time they are just being polite, but certainly not all of the time.  We all have the power to choose, every minute of every day.  Perhaps it is true that Change (with a capital C) starts with you making a different choice about what you do next…  You might pause next time you hear yourself saying  “I’d love to but” and ask yourself what you truly want, what is really good for you.

I hope you make a positive, enriching and fulfilling choice

“It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.”   Joanne Kathleen Rowling

A gift of time…. TICK…..TOCK..

Sunday, October 25th, 2009

Last night at 2am the world decided that we needed to change our clocks, and we set them back an hour.  Now I don’t know about you, but I unfailing find this adjustment an unnecessary dislocation in my natural rhythms, not to mention that every blooming thing now has a clock built into it and I have to adjust stoves, cars, clocks, phones, cameras, satnavs and… and ….

However [rant over]… Today we have been given the gift of time.  You have an extra hour to do with what you will… so what are you going to do with it?  You could call your mum, sweep up the leaves, go for a run, sleep in, meditate…. why not make time for one of those things that you keep saying you don’t have time to do?

“Time is free, but it’s priceless. You can’t
own it, but you can use it. You can’t keep
it, but you can spend it. Once you’ve lost it
you can never get it back.”

Harvey MacKay

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Tempus Fugit

Sunday, February 8th, 2009

The period after Xmas is always a bit of a ‘dead’ time, and this year seemed to take longer to start than most.  It felt as if the entire nation had pretty much given up even pretending to work after 19th December till about the 5th January.  We have just lost the best part of another week due to the snow, and the time in between seems to have vanished without trace!

I’d love to know if this is just me or if many of us are experiencing this time warp?

“Time is what prevents everything from happening at once.”  John Archibald Wheeler

“Time flies like an arrow…. Fruit flies like a banana.”  Groucho Marx

Is it Time?

Wednesday, April 23rd, 2008

I was thinking about Time and how we think of it and use it. I guess most of us were brought up with the idea that it was linear and flows in one direction at a uniform speed very much like the hourglass that we used to use to measure it. Then clever people come along and tell us that it is relative to the position and speed of the observer. I’ll make no attempt to explain this as I don’t claim to understand it. All I gather is that even our brightest brains can’t really agree on its nature, but we may be able to reverse it and travel in it.

However, according to my entirely subjective experience it seems to move more like a river, and to move at different speeds at different times. Sometimes my time seems to be moving much slower than every one else’s around me especially when I get absorbed in something. There are periods when I can’t seem to stop and yet don’t seem to make a great deal of progress on a series of simple jobs that are waiting on a little gap to attend to them.

I have been on the Time Management courses, and am generally pretty disciplined about being ‘on time’, but my subjective experience of this ‘resource’ is very different from this rather pragmatic, western view of it as a business resource that we can trade and sell. If you think about plants and animals; they are just as subject to Time as we are, but they seem to do things when it is the ‘right time’. I have yet to see a robin with a tiny little watch or a buttercup with a clock! They just know that they are now ready to move forwards.

Despite our cleverness and our courses, I think we have much of this awareness within us and it then has to struggle against our wristwatch mentality as to which one controls when we move. When working with Change, I have no doubt that the natural clock is the one that controls us. So if it doesn’t feel like the right day to move forwards, chances are it isn’t! Try listening to yourself, and where possible arranging your diary round your inner sense of rhythm and time. I think you will find it is much less stressful!

“Take time to deliberate; but when the time for action arrives, stop thinking and go in.” Napoleon Bonaparte

“The only reason for time is so that everything doesn’t happen at once.” Albert Einstein

Doggy paddling in the River of Time

Friday, April 18th, 2008

I don’t know if any of you have had this experience too. I have mentioned several times recently that I have been trying to take / make some ‘me time’. My first gambit was deciding to stop ‘discretionary’ work activities and expecting this to create space. I wasn’t proactive to talking to clients; I didn’t make any new appointments in the time I had earmarked. That didn’t work. Next I tried actually booking the time into my diary ‘Day Off’. Well as regular readers will know, the first of these days I managed to injure myself and just spent a day laid up and in pain. The next day I had a delivery of some sexy new hardware including two new 22″ monitors. Connecting them should have been a doddle, plug ’em in and turn ’em on. Nope!

I wasn’t able to get the correct maximum resolution and that started another day of wasted time and energy where I downloaded drivers and tried them out, spoke at length to various techies, all to no avail. In the end I contact the graphics card manufacturer who suggested installing latest chipset drivers and bios. This is where it got really nasty! I upgraded the bios and then couldn’t even turn on my machine. Holy Cr@p! More wasted time and lots of unwanted anxiety later, I got some expert help and reset the bios parameters, and I’m back in business.

Today is my second ‘me’ day and I have a daughter who has travelled 300 miles to attend an interview and needs a lift which will consume 3 hours; I have a utility room that apparently needs totally emptying as we have work starting there on Monday…

And I am left doggy paddling in the riptide of time and being swept further and further from the shore. I should mention that I’m pretty organised and good with how I control my time (Though you may now wonder about that!) If this were a rip tide, then the advice is not to fight it, but relax and let it take you in the direction it is going then use your energy to get somewhere safe. I have to say I think this is the right strategy for Time too. I will do what I have to in order to keep things moving. I will keep trying to make some ‘Me space’; in fact, I have just blocked out Monday.

The thing is you have to balance the opposite pulls on you between things you really need to attend to and the need to listen to your body / soul. Failure to do this is probably the major cause of stress in our society.

So if today finds you feeling the need to stop, or just do something different, please do so. If like me you are finding the Universe has other plans for you, then don’t struggle too much, keep your powder dry and use it when you can! I’d love hear your stories and what you do in these situations. Good luck!

“Time is an illusion. Lunchtime doubly so.” Douglas Adams

“How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.” Annie Dillard