Posts Tagged ‘control’

Just in time?

Sunday, October 2nd, 2011

How often have you heard the phrase “I was just in time” or “I ran out of time..”?  They are so common place that we scarcely give them any thought.  I have written before about the concept that the only time you can make a change is Now; the past has already gone and the future isn’t here yet.  The reason for this blog is that I have been aware that it has been a long while since I have written and whilst it is true that my personal circumstances have had much to do with that, it is more complex than that.  I rather think I am ‘out of time’ at present.  That is not to say I don’t have enough time, quite the reverse.  I’m out-of-time in the sense that I am not very present in the present.  This particularly odd for me as I am a vey ‘present tense’ kind of person. 

I’m certainly not living in the past, that feels like it is a very,very long time ago.  Nor am I living really in the future, as that is only glimpsed dimly, as if through a fog.  But, oddly, nor am I fully present, in the present; it is like my life is stuck in a traffic jam on the way to somewhere important.  I can’t go backwards, I don’t control my forward motion either so I must merely wait…

I mention all this not to bore you with my personal life, but rather as a little warning as it is my observation that many people fall into the trap of not living or working in the present and everything good is going to happen tomorrow.  If you do not act today, then tomorrow will be much the same or at the very least someone else will control what happens then.

“Time is the coin of your life. It is the only coin you have, and only you can determine how it will be spent. Be careful lest you let other people spend it for you.”  Carl Sandburg

“We must use time as a tool, not as a crutch.”  John F Kennedy

Going with the Flow

Monday, December 7th, 2009

Someone responded to my blog yesterday “I usually let it go with the flow……or better……where the flow takes us……….”    And it made me realise that what sounds rather like a bit of a hippy cliché in fact contains some really serious keys to successful change.  Change is organic; it comes from within.  Attempts to impose it from the outside (the usual method in most businesses) is almost doomed to fail.  We need to encourage and enable people to change, not force it. 

Working with the currents of ‘What Is’,   rather than what we would like to be, uses the same principles as sailing, which forces the sailor to shift his course to take account of the wind, tides and weather rather than merely following an arbitrary plotted route.

Understanding this simple lesson is perhaps the key to Change

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”  Lao-Tzu

Every flow has its ebb.”   French Proverb

 

Outside your control

Friday, August 7th, 2009

I had two incidents happen in the last 24hours which left me feeling very uncomfortable.  The first was an update of this blog software which somehow scrambled the formatting and ruin the page.  Next day, I got a couple of letters from the Revenue about about some technical problem, which throws me into their system, and on to the ‘mercy’ of their common sense.  In both cases I have to rely on others expertise to sort me out.  It is not a comfortable feeling to be powerless and completely reliant on others.

The thing is that in companies it is those with the least power who suffer from the most stress for exactly these reasons.  The more you can involve people, and give them some kind of choice, the less stressed they will be.

Managing communications is also key as you don’t want people to feel that you are keeping secrets from them, but nor do you want to alarm them by speaking about things too soon, when everything is vague and up-in-the-air.  It is a very delicate balancing act, and one key is to be as honest as you can, and treat others with respect.  This helps reduce stress and resistance later on.

“Forces beyond your control can take away everything you possess except one thing, your freedom to choose how you will respond to the situation.”   Viktor E. Frankl