Archive for June, 2010

Home Alone

Monday, June 21st, 2010

Today was a strange day.  It is the first time on a Monday morning that all my children have been out to work at the same time and today I was here, home alone.  The house is silent.  I have cores to get on with of course, things to clean, calls to make and a set of good intentions about diet and exercise to live up to!  It’s not that I dislike the silence, but I am very aware of the house about me and its stillness. 

My middle daughter even phoned to see how I was coping with it.  It is all very odd and I suppose that when my son is off at Uni then this will happen more and more.  It was never a norm that I sought nor one I frankly wish to get used to. 

It is very different when work if frantic as you have lots to occupy your mind and time, but during this enforced sabbatical and whilst I’m under effective ‘house arrest’ it feels very strange.  It is a little like the Ghost of Xmas Future is showing me a glimpse of something that , like Scrooge, I’d sooner not have to live into…

I wonder what the next turn of the wheel will bring?

The Power of “Thank you”

Friday, June 11th, 2010

There was some tension in the air at home and I always hate this but couldn’t put my finger on what was causing it.  Then my daughter cracked and said that she didn’t feel all that she was doing was being seen or appreciated.  She didn’t mind doing it but needed to feel that it was valued.  Now, I, like most of us I guess, like to think I do a pretty fair job of saying “Thank you” and looking after those around me but clearly I had been failing here, where it was most important.

This got me reflecting on the power contained in a simple, and sincere “Thank you”.  It says “I see you.  I value you and you efforts.  Your gift has not been taken for granted.  It has been appreciated and valued”  However, it seems to me that its secret power is the underlying message that you have been seen, you have been valued, you have been appreciated.  This is the a vital for most of us a oxygen.

Whether at work or a home, whether you want to improve your bottom line or just live in harmony, I recommend that you spend a little less time reading How to Succeed books or listening to consultants and experiment with the power of genuine gratitude and appreciation

“Grace isn’t a little prayer you chant before receiving a meal.  It’s a way to live”.  Attributed to Jacqueline Winspear

“There is no such thing as gratitude unexpressed.  If it is unexpressed, it is plain, old-fashioned ingratitude.”  Robert Brault,

Last Will

Tuesday, June 8th, 2010

When you lose someone close to you you are pitched into a place where you have to learn and think about all manner of things that most of us choose to avoid most of the time.  You have to find out how to dispose of a body and think through what should be done with one.  Then there is the forest of legislative red tape you have to swim through …and the forms!!  Once you have been through the process of dealing with their will (or worse still the absence of a will) then inevitably you think about your own.  Many of us wrote our wills many years ago and things change.  Mine was written to protect 3 babies, I now have 3 adults with different needs and issues, so I have begun the process of revising and updating mine.

You have to be made sterner stuff than I not to shed the odd tear when writing this kind of thing.  However, it is a real expression of love and one’s final opportunity to look after those that you care for.  This process makes you think about who and what is important to you and actually the time to do something about both of these is right now.  Why wait till we die to say “I love you!”?  Why wait till it is too late to make time for the people and things that we care about?  I know this is neither a new or an original thought but that does not diminish its truth one whit. In both business and personal lives we waste way too much time on the trivia.  Shifting our time and attention to those things that will bring us either emotional or material ‘wealth’ is one of the keys to success

“Nearly everything you do is of no importance, but it is important that you do it.”  Mohandas Gandhi

“A life is not important except in the impact it has on other lives.”   Jackie Robinson