Posts Tagged ‘appreciation’

Be thankful

Sunday, January 30th, 2011

This is not original, but I thought it worth passing on as it makes a good point:-

“A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He held up a sign which said: “I am blind, please help.” There were only a few coins in the hat. A man was walking by he took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words. He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by would see the new words. Soon the hat began to fill up, a lot more people were giving money to the blind boy. That afternoon the man who had changed the sign came to see how things were, the boy recognized his footsteps and asked, “Were you the one who changed my sign this morning? What did you write?” The man said, “I only wrote the truth, I said what you said but in a different way. “I wrote: ‘Today is a beautiful day; but I cannot see it.'” Both signs told people that the boy was blind but the first sign simply said the boy was blind.

The second sign reminded people how fortunate they were to have their sight. Should we be surprised that the second sign was more effective? Moral of the Story: Be thankful for what you have. Be creative. Be innovative.?Think differently and positively. When life gives you a 100 reasons to cry, show life that you have 1000 reasons to smile. Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear. Keep the faith and drop the fear. It’s a beautiful thing to see a person smiling. But even more beautiful is knowing that you are the reason for the smile! Faith is not about everything turning out OK faith is about being OK no matter how things turn out.is a true reflection of most of us life. Be strong….”

I think it makes more than one good point.  Clearly being grateful and appreciating what we have is always important, but makes another point about how we communicate with others.  I shows the power of building rapport with our audience, of ensuring we don’t just communicate information but also feelings.  If you seek to influence someone, don’t assume that they will take the time to think about you what your message means to them, tell them!  And don’t be afraid to ask for help…

The Power of “Thank you”

Friday, June 11th, 2010

There was some tension in the air at home and I always hate this but couldn’t put my finger on what was causing it.  Then my daughter cracked and said that she didn’t feel all that she was doing was being seen or appreciated.  She didn’t mind doing it but needed to feel that it was valued.  Now, I, like most of us I guess, like to think I do a pretty fair job of saying “Thank you” and looking after those around me but clearly I had been failing here, where it was most important.

This got me reflecting on the power contained in a simple, and sincere “Thank you”.  It says “I see you.  I value you and you efforts.  Your gift has not been taken for granted.  It has been appreciated and valued”  However, it seems to me that its secret power is the underlying message that you have been seen, you have been valued, you have been appreciated.  This is the a vital for most of us a oxygen.

Whether at work or a home, whether you want to improve your bottom line or just live in harmony, I recommend that you spend a little less time reading How to Succeed books or listening to consultants and experiment with the power of genuine gratitude and appreciation

“Grace isn’t a little prayer you chant before receiving a meal.  It’s a way to live”.  Attributed to Jacqueline Winspear

“There is no such thing as gratitude unexpressed.  If it is unexpressed, it is plain, old-fashioned ingratitude.”  Robert Brault,

Effortless?

Wednesday, May 6th, 2009

I  was out walking today, and noticed a kestrel hanging, totally stationary in the air, apparently expending no effort at all.  It was a magnificent sight.  It got me thinking about that apparent lack of effort.  I suspect that it took not only consummate skill, but a great deal of work to create this display of ‘doing nothing’. 

We all know people who are so good at what they do it seems to be effortless and we tend to take them for granted as a result.  I’m married to someone like this.  Today might be a good day to show your appreciation for their (apparently) effortless gifts!

 

 “Mozart’s music always sounds unburdened, effortless, and light. This is why it unburdens, releases, and liberates us.”   Karl Barth

Saying "You are important" or "I love you"

Sunday, September 21st, 2008

As human beings we all need to hear that we are important, that we are loved, whether it is by those who are near and dear to us or those at work.  At home it makes us feel emotionally secure; at work it makes us feel financially secure to know that we are  valued.  The trouble is that we don’t all speak the same language.

We have all heard that men are from Mars and women are from Venus, but there seem to be an infinite number of planets we all come from and when those who are close to us fail to communicate in the ‘right’ language we feel less valued and special.  Of course this cuts both ways and no doubt we are all just as often the sinners as those sinned against..

Whether it is in the family, or in the work place, we need to make sure that we take the time to get on the same wave-length and communicate our appreciation of those around us in terms that they can hear and value.

“At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.”  Albert Schweitzer