Posts Tagged ‘lost’

The unseen path

Wednesday, March 2nd, 2011

I was out walking today and fascinated by how often,even when you were in the right place and very close, you still couldn’t make out where the path goes, and as someone with a love of metaphors, it occurred to me that this often happens in real life too.  How often do we feel that we can’t see our way forward when it turns out that the thing we are seeking is right in front of us?  Sometimes you just have to change our perspective a little bit, in order to find it.  As someone who does coaching sometimes I can see someone’s way forward, but until they can too, there is no progress.

So a little thought for those of you/us who perhaps are feeling a little lost, maybe what you need is hiding in plain sight and you just need to shift your perspective to spot it?  I hope so!

“No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.”   Buddha

When being on track is being lost…

Wednesday, November 25th, 2009

I was out walking again today, and as ever, it taught me a few things of broader application.  The number of times today that we were happily marching along a clear, straight path, and according to our plan, we were meant to proceeding along a straight path… so no problem, right?  Wrong!  Sometimes, and in fact several times today, the straight path on the map was not same as the one we were walking along.  Knowing when to turn to stay on track is a skill that is very useful.

Another time we were marching along, I was confident that I knew exactly were we were and I saw a road “What is that doing there?” I asked, “There is no road on the map…”   Of course, we weren’t where I thought I was, and I should have seen the road and asked “Where are we really?”   It is so easy to assume that you are where you wish you where, rather than taking account of the evidence before you. 

Despite this little catalogue of minor navigational glitches today, we continued to adjust what we did and had a wonderful walk in beautiful November sunlight; as the sun is so low in the sky now, it produces wonderful gentle and contrasting tones.  Sometimes we need to remember our higher purpose, and today it was simply to be somewhere lovely and get some exercise; my original route was merely one way to do this, and not necessarily the best one.

Having a plan, and working that plan and reaching your goal are not always the same things.  Remembering why you are doing what you are doing is the key to successful navigation and much else….

“Oh, my ways are strange ways and new ways and old ways, And deep ways and steep ways and high ways and low, I’m at home and at ease on a track that I know not, And restless and lost on a road that I know”    Henry Lawson

 

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Video Blog: Lost in the dark

Friday, November 20th, 2009

 

This is a video that explores some of the ideas of yesterday’s blog.  I’d be very interested to know whether the video format adds anything for you and how you feel about it…

Lost in the dark?

Thursday, November 19th, 2009

As a keen walker and fan of all those survival-type programmes, one of the things they talk a lot about is what to do when you are lost.  One of the hardest thing in the world to do is realising that continuing to go forwards may not be a good idea.  We all like to feel that we are ‘doing something’ and accepting that what we are doing isn’t working is a really tough first step.  Sometimes just sitting down where you are and waiting can be the very best thing you can do.  If you have to do something, then the next best strategy is to retrace your steps to the last place where you know you weren’t lost.  With a aid of GPS this is much easier of course!

The thing is that when you are walking or travelling this kind of thing is pretty factual, but in the so called ‘real life’ it is much tougher to realise that we have lost the plot and far tougher to stop.  It takes real courage and fortitude to wait till the fog clears and your next step is clear, or ask for help.

My question to you is:-

  • How do you know you are lost?
  • What do you do when that happens?

Lost is a pretty powerless place and very much at variance to tone of our ‘go-getter-plan-and-focus’ world, I suspect many people would it tough to admit it… even to themselves.  What about you?

“Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves.”   Henry David Thoreau

 

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Finding myself part 2

Friday, November 6th, 2009

I was out walking again today along the beautiful South Downs Way, near Cocking; despite the slight overcast, the views were phenomenal.  It occurred to me that walkers, like the rest of us, are busy trying to ‘find our way’.  We talk about ‘losing our way’ too.  Then I looked down, and realised that I was already ‘on my way’,  and my feet were already on my path.  I was in the only place I could be to move forward from.

We spend so much time planning how to get some place else.  Maybe we need, instead, to ask why we are where we are? 

I was also wondering why I was walking, what was the point of spending all this effort to just get back to the same place?  I occurred to me that whilst I stayed the same, the view and what I could see kept changing.  In other words, it gives me a constantly changing vista or perspective.  One of the key things that enables us to change is seeing the same things differently, or seeing extra things that change our views.

“I’m working my way toward divinity.”   Bette Midler

 

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A Canterbury Tale

Sunday, August 31st, 2008

Despite having lived in the South East for all my life, and in Surrey for over 30  years, I have never got round to visiting Canterbury.  On Friday night we realised that we would have an empty nest this weekend and thought that we ought to take advantage of this.  So it seemed an excellent time to correct this oversight and visit this historic city.

As expected it has some fabulous old buildings, we found a great little B&B in the neighbouring countryside and dined in a nice pub.  There is something very restful about just removing yourself from your normal environment where you are surrounded by all sorts of distractions and little jobs that beckon.

On the way home we visited Scotney Castle.  We had an interesting little experience en route.  The satnav wanted us to go left on a roundabout, which I did.  It soon became clear that this was a new exit and ‘Jane’ thought we were driving in the middle of a field.  I had no choice but to drive on and look for an exit.  I arrived at the next roundabout only to find the road had taken us directly to Scotney.  I thought it was interesting how Life could take you ‘straight to Go’ sometimes.  Sometimes when one thinks one is lost in fact you are just being taken right where you need to go… isn’t Life wonderful?

PS>> for those of you tempted, as we were by this fabulous view, this isn’t the castle you get to visit.  The National Trust property is a Nineteenth century country pile