Four lessons from our self-talk: lesson 4

Lesson 4:  “What would people think?”

We all live inside invisible walls constructed by our society, we are self-policing to the degree that we care and worry about what others would think and this has its positives.  However, often it constrains us in ways that limit us.  We judge ourselves and project that judgement on others.  We limit ourselves in ways that don’t serve us.  Perhaps better questions are:-

1. What would those who really love me think about this?
2. Just because I haven’t done it before is that a reason for not trying it?
3. Do I care what …. thinks of me?

Marcus Aurelius once said “It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own”  Stepping out of our comfort zone is risky and we can try to ‘stay safe’ by limiting our options to those which keep us in the same old place.

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