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My best beloved has spent the last 2 days in bed, having cornered the mucus market.  She is feeling totally rotten and useless, and being a woman suffers enormous guilt pangs from being in this state.  Mere males when feeling this way lie back and just make the most of their time in bed.  It is a very minor example of how we respond to being powerless, and that is a deeply troubling state.  All of our upbringing and societal cues tell us that the key to happiness is Power.  Obviously different people have different levels of power in different places and situations.  One of the great levellers is the money, in that my five pound note buys just the same level of attention as the next man’s.

However, there are many situations where we are either powerless or have insufficient power to control the outcomes we want.  It seems to me that perhaps a little education in handling these situations would reduce our stress levels significantly.  I was reading a blog the other day where someone was advocating ‘surrender’.  There are all sorts of situations where you either have no choice, or the outcome really doesn’t matter.  We tend to stress ourselves in trying to make things happen, when perhaps we should just metaphorically (or in my wife’s case literally) lie back and just surrender.

If you are feeling poorly, I wish you well, if you are not then perhaps you too might do well to consider letting go….

“The creative process is a process of surrender, not control.”   Julia Cameron

“Don’t seek God in temples. He is close to you. He is within you. Only you should surrender to Him and you will rise above happiness and unhappiness.”  Leo Tolstoy

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