Posts Tagged ‘self image’

Majorcan Blog No 6:

Sunday, June 29th, 2008

I was floating in the pool on a lilo and thinking what an insubstantial thing it was to keep me afloat, just a little bit of flimsy plastic and a puff of air, and yet it was all that I needed to feel safe and supported. Sometimes a little support goes mighty long way, and is all we need to move forward. Sadly most of us have relatively few sources of this in our lives.

However, with just a little bit of effort and sensitivity we are able to give away this precious gift to those we come into contact with and what a huge difference we can make by doing so. Just a kind word here, a little listening there, sometimes just a smile… that can be all it takes to change a life.

Majorcan Blog No 3: Abuse before Breakfast:

Sunday, June 29th, 2008

Families are wondrous and complex structures: where else could you be abused three times before breakfast and not be mortally offended? As humans we all have a distorted self image of ourselves, we are both better than and less than the pictures we carry in our heads. Families see this all and help redress the balance a little. 

We spend a great deal of time and energy trying to present an acceptable image of ourselves to the world, to ensure that we get on and are accepted. However, hopefully, our families accept us more or less as we are; they mock us, tease us, appreciate us and love us.

It is really one of the key measures of maturity to begin to see oneself a little more as they see us and to forgive ourselves our fragilities and failures without feeling the need to deny them.

Designer Labels

Monday, June 16th, 2008

We live in a society obsessed with designer labels. Certainly some of these designers merit their status and make lovely clothes and cars etc. However, as others have just cashed in on their names and sold the right to put them on any old toot, these labels are no guarantee of style. It is interesting that there is now a huge market in known fake designer goods, where people boast about having ‘knock-offs’

There are posh addresses to live in, and ‘in’ places to hang out, and God knows the media is utterly obsessed with celebrities, which really these days just means someone you have heard of.

So how does it feel to be ordinary in this label led world? How do we feel about just driving any old car, wearing clothes from the high street, rather than the cat-walk, and just being Joe (or Josephine) Ordinary?

I enjoy the few really nice things I have, as I am sure you do, but to feel that your value is somehow changed by these things seems daft. I just wonder what the other labels we put on ourselves do for us.. And those that others place round our necks?

“First say to yourself what you would be; and then do what you have to do.” Epictetus
“Our achievements of today are but the sum total of our thoughts of yesterday. You are today where the thoughts of yesterday have brought you and you will be tomorrow where the thoughts of today take you” Blaise Pascal