Posts Tagged ‘experience’

Adversity

Friday, March 20th, 2009

I was listening to the chief rabbi, Jonathan Sacks, talking about the lessons he had learnt from adversity.  He was saying that when he stopped asking “Why me?” and changed his question to “What should I learn from this?” he found he could move on in his life.

We all make mistakes; we all have things happen to us that try & challenge us, but many of us get stuck in feeling a victim, or battered by fate.  Asking “What can I learn from this?” is much more empowering response. 

It is not necessarily a case of Life seeking to teach us lessons, but rather creating a space for an inner dialogue which allows our inner voice to speak to us.  Rabbi Sacks felt that he heard God’s voice in this; I think it is okay  to interpret this howsoever works for you.  The power of the process works.

Whether in your personal or business life, take the time to learn from your mistakes.  Of course, if you are smart, you will also learn from the mistakes of others too!  Bon Chance!

“The man who makes no mistakes does not usually make anything.”  Edward Phelps

“If a mistake is not a stepping stone, it is a mistake.”  Eli Siegel

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Just try it…

Thursday, December 18th, 2008

I have had an interesting experience over the last few days.  We had a few things to sell after our renovation and we didn’t really know how to go about it.  The obvious route these days is eBay, but I had been told that there was little demand for these particular goods and had done nothing for months.

In the end, and failing any better ideas, we put them on eBay having reconciled ourselves to the fact we may well be wasting our time.  I did a little more research and discovered that one of these items now cost around £115 new, and there a number for sale already.  I put a Buy-it-Now price on it of £50.  Our waterbed was the thing that I really thought would be tough to move, and wasn’t at all sure it would go.    Within a few days there were about  20 people interested and I had two people wanting to pay a reasonable Buy-it-Now price.

So what was the lesson?  When you don’t know how to proceed, begin.  Learn from doing; at the very least you gain knowledge and you may just succeed.  I suspect that we could have got even more for these items but I’m happy to just see them moved on to people who want them and clear our space of them.

“The men who try to do something and fail are infinitely better than those who try nothing and succeed”  Lloyd Jones

“The only time you don’t fail is the last time you try anything — and it works.”   William Strong

Ray Mears – Get out there and feel it

Saturday, October 18th, 2008

Last night we were lucky enough to hear Ray Mears talk.  We turned up to a packed auditorium and there was literally nowhere to sit that wasn’t ‘Reserved’.  Then the nice lady whisked us down to the very front row and sat us down 5′ from the man.  He was exactly the same in person as he is on TV.

Apparently he is a Surrey lad and was brought up a few miles from here.  One of the things that he recommended was to just get out into the countryside, especially with your family, and experience it and see the change in the seasons.  Of course he is right; there is no substitute for being out there and feeling it yourself, seeing it, smelling it.  We have all grown up listening to owls on sound tracks, but they in now way prepare you for the wonder and magic of hearing one in your own garden.

The thing is that in management, as in the rest of Life, there is no substitute for being out there and ‘feeling it’ for yourself.  You can’t always manage remotely or really communicate effectively by email.  Of course I’m not saying that you shouldn’t use these tools and approaches, but never make the mistake of thinking that it is the same as ‘the real thing’.  There is an extra dimension that we experience when we are there and present.

This weekend, with the sun peeping through and the leaves turning… get out there and in the words of Mr Mears “kick a few leaves”

“Experience is the name every one gives to their mistakes.”   Oscar Wilde