Posts Tagged ‘presence’

Lighting up the space

Thursday, December 25th, 2008

fire It is part of the Cooke family Xmas to have a roaring log fire.  Regular readers will recall that Cooke Towers has been undergoing something of a make-over and this was pretty much the first time we have been able to enjoy the redecorated lounge.  We loved the decoration but when I lit the fire this morning it amazed me how this most primitive of man’s discoveries still transforms a space.  It seemed almost miraculous how different  the room felt with the fire going.

It then occurred to me that there are people like that, who light up a space and make the room come alive.  Perhaps we all have a chance, or maybe even  a choice to be that sort of person, someone who is not afraid to let themselves be seen, to be warm and sparkle.  Today would be a perfect time to make a gift of the real you to the people you love, and accepting, embracing and loving those who you share your day with as they truly are.

May your Xmas be filled with warmth and light.

Ray Mears – Get out there and feel it

Saturday, October 18th, 2008

raymears Last night we were lucky enough to hear Ray Mears talk.  We turned up to a packed auditorium and there was literally nowhere to sit that wasn’t ‘Reserved’.  Then the nice lady whisked us down to the very front row and sat us down 5′ from the man.  He was exactly the same in person as he is on TV.

Apparently he is a Surrey lad and was brought up a few miles from here.  One of the things that he recommended was to just get out into the countryside, especially with your family, and experience it and see the change in the seasons.  Of course he is right; there is no substitute for being out there and feeling it yourself, seeing it, smelling it.  We have all grown up listening to owls on sound tracks, but they in now way prepare you for the wonder and magic of hearing one in your own garden.

The thing is that in management, as in the rest of Life, there is no substitute for being out there and ‘feeling it’ for yourself.  You can’t always manage remotely or really communicate effectively by email.  Of course I’m not saying that you shouldn’t use these tools and approaches, but never make the mistake of thinking that it is the same as ‘the real thing’.  There is an extra dimension that we experience when we are there and present.

This weekend, with the sun peeping through and the leaves turning… get out there and in the words of Mr Mears “kick a few leaves”

“Experience is the name every one gives to their mistakes.”   Oscar Wilde