Posts Tagged ‘rites of passage’

Graduation

Saturday, July 18th, 2009

Yesterday was my daughter’s graduation day.  It is one of those rare day’s in one’s life when there is a visible transition; an old fashioned rite of passage.  It was full of pomp and ceremony, gowns, hoods, mortarboards and caps, swords and maces.  Yesterday, the Chancellor said, marked the beginning of the rest of their lives rather than just the end of their time at university.

Most of the changes in our lives are more gradual… Tick..Tock..  Tick… Tock  Time passes and we don’t notice the subtle changes.  Day-by-day, we grow older, greyer, wiser.  I think it might all be a little easier if we had a few more ceremonies and certificates telling us that we now know something.  Mostly Life creeps up on us; one minute we are kids, the next we are parents (but still feel the same way!)

I tend to find that I don’t know what I know till I am  tested or asked a question, maybe it is the same for you.  I think there is a real value in these occasions and rites, but we shouldn’t forget all those little changes slowly add up and we aren’t the same person today that we were even a year ago.  Maybe we should pause occasionally, take stock and see who we are today?

“Old age and the passage of time teach all things.”  Sophocles

 

My baby’s gone away

Sunday, July 6th, 2008

Yesterday my 18 year old son, who is also our youngest child, went off on holiday with ‘the lads’ for the first time.  He was assailed by last minute nerves which was very upsetting for everyone concerned.  One tends to forget that just being over 6′ tall doesn’t make you a ‘grown-up’.  Travelling alone is undoubtedly one of those rites of passage and it is important for us all to do these things. It is tough to do, and tough to watch.

Doing new things is always challenging on many different levels:-

  • You don’t know how to do it, as you have no experience.  Theory and practice can be a million miles apart
  • You can feel frightened by all the things you don’t know.  All sorts of nameless fears can assail you.
  • You can be confused by feeling excited and scared at the same time, torn between conflicting emotions
  • You don’t know whether to run forward into the experience or away from it
  • You don’t want to seem foolish or weak  to others

New things are challenges, but they always take us to new places that allow in new ideas and feelings.  I hope that if you are facing a new challenge today you can find the courage and the support you need to embrace it… Good Luck!

“Be brave. Take risks. Nothing can substitute experience.”   Paulo Coelho

“Experience is a hard teacher because she gives the test first, the lesson afterwards”