Posts Tagged ‘travel’

Calais Blog 2 – Surrender

Friday, August 1st, 2008

So day 2 on our trip, and we have another day with no agenda. Continental breakfast on the terrace, a route march up the hill to some World War 1 memorial, then down the coast to ‘real’ French town for more sitting around followed by a delicious lunch of moules & frites. By this stage my system had slowed down to a bear tick-over. We tried to get interested in some serious shopping in one of Calais duty-free style malls, but we couldn’t do it. Somehow, surrounded by folks pushing two or more trolleys the size of small vans, stuffed full of booze, we didn’t feel like it.

We arrived at the tunnel, hoping to hop on an earlier train, only to discover that there had been an ‘incident’ in the tunnel and our train was cancelled and in fact we ended waiting almost 2 hours in 34’c but somehow it didn’t matter. The strange thing was that by this stage I had no need to control anything any more ( a rare phenomenon) it is an interesting place to visit. So many of the messages we pick up these days are about focus, plan act! We need to occasionally balance things up with a little ‘letting go’. The thing is, when we let go, we allow others to take up the reins and express themselves. Maybe today is a good day to say “You decided… I don’t mind”

“If you surrender completely to the moments as they pass, you live more richly those moments.” Anne Morrow

 


 

Calais Blog No 1… Saying ‘Yes!’

Friday, August 1st, 2008

We had a rather nice surprise trip to France yesterday. My walking buddy & his wife suggested relocating our weekly walk to the other side of the channel and my kids (Bless them!) arranged themselves to make it possible. Everyone made it very easy to say “Yes”. The only thing that we had to do was to get in the car. However, I notice that I find it easier to say “No” (and I suspect I am not alone in this) just because the suggestion is something different. A little voice says “I don’t do that kind of thing”, and low & behold… we don’t!

It is important and valuable to say “Yes” sometimes when Life offers us these opportunities as it gets us out of our ruts and deals the occasional wild card into our hands, and who knows what fruits we might reap from these. As I mentioned the other day, Change often grows from tiny seeds, so to paraphrase John Lennon, why don’t we all “Give Change a chance!”

Anyway, my reward for accepting this invitation was 2 days of sand and sea in a tiny seaside village near Calais, some great food and lovely company, a total break, and a real mini-holiday. If today you get the chance, try saying “Yes” to something different.

“The less routine the more life.” Amos Bronson Alcott

“All growth is a leap in the dark, a spontaneous, unpremeditated act without benefit of experience.” Henry Miller

 

 


 

My baby’s gone away

Sunday, July 6th, 2008

Yesterday my 18 year old son, who is also our youngest child, went off on holiday with ‘the lads’ for the first time.  He was assailed by last minute nerves which was very upsetting for everyone concerned.  One tends to forget that just being over 6′ tall doesn’t make you a ‘grown-up’.  Travelling alone is undoubtedly one of those rites of passage and it is important for us all to do these things. It is tough to do, and tough to watch.

Doing new things is always challenging on many different levels:-

  • You don’t know how to do it, as you have no experience.  Theory and practice can be a million miles apart
  • You can feel frightened by all the things you don’t know.  All sorts of nameless fears can assail you.
  • You can be confused by feeling excited and scared at the same time, torn between conflicting emotions
  • You don’t know whether to run forward into the experience or away from it
  • You don’t want to seem foolish or weak  to others

New things are challenges, but they always take us to new places that allow in new ideas and feelings.  I hope that if you are facing a new challenge today you can find the courage and the support you need to embrace it… Good Luck!

“Be brave. Take risks. Nothing can substitute experience.”   Paulo Coelho

“Experience is a hard teacher because she gives the test first, the lesson afterwards”

Coming Home & the Middle Way

Tuesday, July 1st, 2008

I find it odd that no matter how nice a time one has had travelling, coming home always feels like a good thing, and no matter how smooth the travel, one is always tired when one arrives back. So it is not really surprising to find Family Cooke feeling a little tired, and struggling to get our lives back into some semblance of order once more. Bags to be unpacked, washing to be done, mail to de dealt with and many other tasks to be seen to.

I find myself struggling to find the middle way between rushing like a mad thing to get back into control of my life & my home, and trying to hang onto a little of the holiday spirit and chill a bit longer. It seems so often in life that the middle way is the right path to tread and yet we so often struggle to walk it. The Buddhists have a whole philosophy about this1 but I don’t think that makes it any easier. Thinking back to some of the family squabbles that cause the usual amount of friction & flame, they would be so much less if all of us could be a little less attached to being right and justifying our actions and feelings.

Change can only start when we are prepared to move on, and if necessary, be wrong. After all if we were perfect, then any change would be for the worst, and we couldn’t allow that could we? I truly believe in our ability to grow and become more than we are now, so perhaps today is a good day to start seeing a few more mistakes and misjudgements that I make…

“Once we realize that imperfect understanding is the human condition, there is no shame in being wrong, only in failing to correct our mistakes.” George Soros

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Majorcan Blog No 10:

Sunday, June 29th, 2008

So we had to go into Palma to find the British Consulate.  Trying to find your way in a strange city is always tough, especially if you are driving but we had a great set of directions and our faithful satnav also helped, but it still was a real challenge.  The consulate was hidden on the fourth floor of an office building down a little alleyway.  The staff were helpful but what a palaver!  It costs around £65 just to get an emergency form and takes at least an hour once you get there.  I wouldn’t recommend it…

We then thought we would experience the big city and see what Palma had to offer, but frankly having allowed ourselves to slow down the way we had, we didn’t really enjoy the bustle.  We had the opposite experience from our fab time in Pollenca, the places we stopped to eat and drink lacked charm and taste.

We left just as the weather broke and struggled to find our way out of the city.  Back in Pollenca the weather was lovely again, found a great oriental restaurant for our final evening meal.  We lunched in this beautiful little cafe in a small square at the bottom of a long flight of stairs that leads up a chapel called Calvary.

The journey home went without further incident and now we are back to the building site we call home, trying to re-engage with all those little tasks that are required to get us back on track, including posting all these blogs!

Majorcan Blog No 7:

Sunday, June 29th, 2008

I thought I was going to be writing about the change in weather today; for the first time we have clouds blowing in over the mountains, and it didn’t seem to promise a good day for sun-bathing. Our new routine was going to have to be changed.

However, this minor meteorological event has been over taken by real drama! In order to understand the nature of this you first have to understand I am a very careful traveller, keeping all key documents and valuables very safe, and am, in the words of Baldrick, “As careful as a careful person”. Our passports have been literally strapped to my body every time we have left the villa, none-the-less, when I went to check on them today (and who does that kind of thing anyway?) my daughter’s was missing!!

Luckily, the tour operators had provided helpful information for just this contingency and with that and a mobile phone I was able to speak to them and the British Consulate and get the ‘low down’ on what needed doing. Trips to local agents, local police stations, then a trip to Palma at the other end of the island tomorrow to get an emergency passport to get us all home.

Thank God we found out today when we had time to sort all this out, apparently if you just turn up at the airport you don’t travel! If you were going to have this kind of thing happen then this is best variety of trauma to have…

I guess sometimes sh1t just happens and you have to roll with it and salvage what you can from the situation.

Majorcan Blog No 4:

Sunday, June 29th, 2008

Somehow the light is different here and the colours seem not just more exotic but brighter too. We have the most incredible purple Morning Glory in the garden and the lemons that just seem so lemony. It is odd to be seeing not just new sights but also seeing things differently too.

Often our ability to change begins with us being able to see either something new or seeing the same things in a new way. It can sometimes be triggered by an outside stimulus like reading something or a comment from someone, or a travelling somewhere and being in a different place.

Every person has a different and unique perspective on things, by staying open and talking about issues and ideas we are able to gain insights that can unlock things for us. The trouble is too often we get hung up on being ‘right’, rather than just discussing different but equally valid ways of seeing and thinking about things.

Majorcan Blog No 1

Sunday, June 29th, 2008

So Family Cooke has decamped to Majorca for a week. We had never been here before, and had heard tales of what appeared to two different places. There was the tacky nasty MaJawKa, that was full of drunken tourists screwing and dancing themselves silly and this green and beautiful Mediterranean refuge. Happily we are firmly ensconced in the latter.

This is as a Spanish place as one could hope to find. Lemon and Avocado trees in the garden, palms and blue, blue skies, hot dry weather, spiky grass and tiles everywhere. It is still strange to me how one can, in matter of a few hours, reek such change in one’s life, at 6am we were in a cold, gray Surrey and two hours latter all of this!

My first major challenge was getting to grips with a new car, manual not auto, whilst driving on the other side of the road and trying to navigate in a place that is utterly unknown to me. This is Change with a capital C. Not good, not bad, just different (as change is really).

That night we wandered into Pollenca; it is a lovely old Spanish town.  We wandered down little allies, stumbled into a magnificent church, painted and decorated in the the most sumptuous manner, and then out into an open square teaming with people, sounds and Life.

We found a lovely little cafe in a quieter area and settled down to a very Spanish meal washed down with sangria. Then back to the square in time to hear a medieval band progress through the square playing bagpipes and drums. A perfect evening in a perfect place.

Sometimes change is just opening yourself to something new, and we are embracing it!