Posts Tagged ‘groups’

Outside looking in..?

Saturday, December 13th, 2008

I suspect that it is a feeling we all get from time-to-time, whether it happens at a party, a family gathering or an online group, sometimes it just feels that we are on the outside of what is going on.  I noticed this with a virtual community, that at times I have been very active in, at the moment there either is nothing going on that interests me or I somehow just don’t get what is going on.

Common sense (and Occam’s razor) says that the simplest explanation is the most likely one; chances are nothing ‘out there’ has changed and it is just me.  The thing is that all the time that it is ‘just me’ then I guess I have the ability to change what is happening by changing what I do.

So often in life we blame others for our happiness or lack there of.  It can be tough to accept that we might be responsible for what is going on

“We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.”  Tom Robbins
“When looking for faults use a mirror, not a telescope”

Open Space

Wednesday, September 17th, 2008

I was at Henley Business School the other day with other visiting faculty members discussing the impact of their merger with Reading University’s business school.  We were using a technique called Open Space, which is a way of working with big groups to discuss issues and develop them.  Imagine a shoal of fish which keeps forming and reforming around various topics and issues.  People can move from topic to topic as they wish.  Open Space has a few underpinning concepts such as:-

  • Whoever comes is the right people
  • Whatever happens is the only thing that could have
  • When it’s over, it’s over, and one there is one rule,
  • The rule of two feet, which simply says you are free to walk away when that feels like the right thing to do.

Today, I was out on the Sussex Downs and we had planned to go for an 8 mile hike.  At one point, after about 5 miles,  we found that we weren’t quite where we expected to be, and there was an option to cut out the last 2 miles and go straight back to the car.  So in our big open space, we exercised our rights under the rule of two feet, and accepted that when it was over, it was over.  We had  had a perfect walk, a wonderful lunch of local cheeses and needed to be back.  The Universe had offered us this perfect end to a perfect day.

Sometimes you have to flex your plans to acknowledge that things have moved on and your needs have changed or even been met.   Staying open and flexible is a key to Change, Life and Open Space…

“There are two types of minds – the mathematical, and what might be called the intuitive. The former arrives at its views slowly, but they are firm and rigid; the latter is endowed with greater flexibility and applies itself simultaneously to the dive”  Blaise Pascal