Posts Tagged ‘learning’

Life Lessons?

Sunday, February 13th, 2011

I’m not sure if I have any answers today, only a question “Do all Life Lessons have to be learned painfully?” I’d love to hear your thoughts please.

My own memory is selective and so I’m hardly the best point of reference for this kind of thing.  If I think back to learning in general, then I can say that my recollections are that whilst these involve hard work, I don’t recall them necessarily being painful.  Indeed, I find myself wondering if we recognise these lessons at the time, or if it is only with hindsight that they stand out?

Or perhaps I’m more stupid that, maybe I learn them, have a blinding moment of clarity and then promptly forget… it’ll the next “OUCH”.  What is your experience??

“Challenges make life interesting, however, overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.”  Mark Twain

“The purpose of life is a life of purpose.”   Robert Byrne

“Life is sexually transmitted and always fatal.”

“Best thing about life – its never so bad that it can’t get worse.”

Role Models?

Thursday, February 12th, 2009

I was listening a leading Icelandic business woman talk today about the two new female CEOs in two of their big banks.  It was suggested that they were more likely to be trusted by the public than another male leader.  During the course of this conversation it was stated “Everyone needs a role model” and that got me thinking.  I am unaware of having ever had one and perhaps it is just part of my character, that I like to explore and find my own way (and that is a lot of the reason I love walking).

Do you have a role model(s) if so who? And how has it helped you?  If you haven’t, to you regret it and why do you feel that you don’t?

“I’m so proud to be voted as a number one role model by these young women. Of course though no-one knows more about “rolls” than I do.”   Dawn French

Zen & the Art of Lawn Mower Maintenance ..Lessons learnt

Wednesday, May 7th, 2008

I wrote yesterday about my adventures with my lawn mower. It was a little voyage of discovery that I’d like to share. As I mentioned, I am not exactly Johnny Mechanic! However yesterday was an interesting lesson in the various forces that either hold us back or drive us forward. I was aware of being somewhat alarmed by size of the potential bill of getting the mower fixed (the last time cost more than the car!) I knew I was operating outside both my comfort zone and competence.

Yesterday was an interesting example of what we are capable of if we just follow the trail of bread crumbs and keep moving forwards. It seemed to me there were a number of learnings:-

  1. Instead of being daunted by the size of a challenge, and all the things we don’t know, act on what we do know and take the next step. We don’t need to know where it leads to, we just have to move forwards
  2. Take one step at a time; with each step, we learn something more, can see a little clearer what our options are. This creates momentum and with that we feel better, stronger, less of a victim
  3. Ask for help. Ask any and everyone, if they don’t now, as them who might. Once again, it is about taking action and putting positive directional energy out there
  4. Take a risk; we know we don’t like the place we are in, so moving into the unknown stands a chance of being better
  5. Be brave! Others have done it before us and there is a good chance we can too!

It was a process of learning by doing, and with each step I could see more of the whole and how things worked more clearly. Random patterns of wires and bits slowly resolved themselves into something that made more sense. If you find yourself in a similar place of fear and not-knowing, perhaps my mower has something to teach you too….

“What we see depends mainly on what we look for.” Sir John Lubbock
“I feel that the most important requirement in success is learning to overcome failure. You must learn to tolerate it, but never accept it”. Reggie Jackson

Are you Pearl or a Boulder?

Friday, April 4th, 2008

Last night I was pondering if there were any ways of categorising Change and giving me some kind of framework to think about it within. After some musing it occurred to me that most change falls within one of two general categories. Firstly there are those things that remove something from you, like the gradual erosion of a boulder, slowly smoothing it down over time. Then there are those things add things to you, like the slow layers that build up round a pearl. Interestingly, both objects end up with their rough edges smoothed away.

Life seems to have this way of giving us either new layers through processes like education and growing up and growing older. It also removes rough edges by very similar means. Each relationship we enter has the potential to change us; each place we visit, each person we meet and open up to.

For me Life is a journey and I see its purpose as being the gradual polishing of the essential us. Sometimes the things that are the most painful shape us most, sometimes we can learn more joyously. When the going gets a little tough, it can sometimes, help to recognise this process at work. It can give us the faith to endure and perhaps open us to co-operating with the process.

“It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power.” Alan Cohen