Posts Tagged ‘wisdom’

Going with the Flow, or should you be a little boulder?

Thursday, July 10th, 2008

We have all heard of the expression “Go with the Flow”, it suggests aligning your self with the energy and allowing it to carry you along. I think there is much wisdom in this philosophy particularly when it is the Universal Energy you align with. Doing this can take you where you should be, bring you what need, support you and energise you.

However, it has a second usage and that is suggesting going along with the people around you, not making waves, being one of the gang. Now I’m sure there are times when this is a good thing too, but if they aren’t going where you need to be, or doing things that support you and align with your values and principles, then perhaps it is better to be a little boulder / bolder and do what is right for you. This takes courage and strength of character but it is crucial to know when to just say “No thanks!”

So if today finds you in a quandary whether to go along or stay where you are, take a moment to dial into whether it feels right for you. Taking a little time, finding a little silence allows us to find our inner guidance and wisdom.

“Everything in the universe has a purpose. Indeed, the invisible intelligence that flows through everything in a purposeful fashion is also flowing through you.” Wayne Dyer

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” Lao-Tzu

Serenity, Change & Wisdom

Sunday, May 11th, 2008

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“God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference. “  Reinhold Niebuhr

Change is a bit like that.  There are things that you need to change, and those that you just have to accept and make peace with.  In the latter category, is other people.  We might hope that they choose to change, but in the end, we can’t change other people.  We can’t change our parents, our siblings, our partners, or anyone else.  How much emotion and energy and “if only”s must we waste before we can find a place of acceptance?

We can waste so much time and energy trying to change all those things that we have no power over, and absolutely fail to invest any of it in the one thing that we can change, the only thing we can change… ourselves.

I sincerely hope that today does not find you in this place; but if it does, that this simple piece of wisdom might help.

As old as you feel

Friday, May 9th, 2008

I know we have all listened to some older relative and heard them say “I don’t feel any older..” At the time, we are often looking at a grey, possibly wrinkled person, and inside they are still a youngster. I suppose it must be a pretty universal feeling but at some point we stop our inner ‘age clock’ and, despite the external evidence, we cease to age emotionally from that day.

I guess I am a little like my car. It is no longer the current model but looks and feels pretty good for its age. I still enjoy driving it; it all works perfectly, and from the driver’s seat, I seldom think about its age. The exterior is in similar condition but it has the odd nick, nudge and signs of its time on the road. However, on the forecourt, you would probably choose a newer model.

Belatedly, I am beginning to realise that perhaps I am no longer the 25 year old I once was! This is not necessarily a bad thing either from the perspective of the passing of the years and what they have brought or how I feel. I appear to have traded a little hair for some wisdom (and I have to tell you the exchange rate is rubbish!) and a family (bless them!)

However, taking a broader perspective, we all have a divergent view when it comes to internal and external perceptions of reality1. We might apparently be dealing with a middle-aged man, having an adult-to-adult conversation, and inside they feel that some nasty grown-up is telling them off! We might see a capable, experienced professional and inside they perhaps feel confused and scared. What you see is only part of what you get!

So, if the responses you are getting from people seem ‘out of whack’ with your expectations, maybe this might explain it. Try shifting how you talk to them both in terms of tone and language; experiment and see if this is more successful at reaching them.

“Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.” Mark Twain

“Growing old is mandatory; growing up is optional”. Chili Davis

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Listen to the little ones

Monday, March 17th, 2008

We had a gathering of the clan this weekend and a good time was had by all (well mostly!) We were driving home with my three children in the back of the car chatting away about what they had seen and heard, and the things they had observed. It was a fascinating lesson. Admittedly, they are pretty grown up but none-the-less, the views and judgements of the junior team on some of the behaviours of the ‘seniors’ were fascinating. Obviously, I’m not going to recount the various details here, they would be meaningless, but for me there were a number of lessons that I thought worth sharing.

  • Just because you are not one of the management team / ‘grown ups’ doesn’t mean that:-
    1. You don’t have important, and possibly unique, insights & information
    2. You don’t have an opinion that should be considered
  • And just because you are of the management team / ‘grown ups’ doesn’t mean that:-
    1. You are (automatically) right
    2. You are being fair
  • Being asked to accept and understand a situation that affects you is one thing; not being considered or communicated with is quite another.
  • Just because you think you understand a situation, and believe that you have acted appropriately, does not mean that you have, especially if you don’t have all the information, and, guess what… we never have all the information!
  • I know there are people running businesses out there today who are making exactly these mistakes, not to mention a parent or too, so today I am sharing the wisdom of these remarkable youngsters to help us all avoid marching straight into a quicksand.

    “The first half of our lives is ruined by our parents, and the second half by our children.” Clarence Darrow

    “If you must hold yourself up to your children as an object lesson, hold yourself up as a warning and not as an example.” George Bernard Shaw