Four lessons from our self-talk: lesson 3

Lesson 3: “They are smarter than me” or “I couldn’t do that”

We often feel like this or say it ourselves and others and guess what?  Sometimes it is even true.  Of course there are more talented or more intelligent people out there; we can’t all be Stephen Hawkings or Bob Dylan!  However, the good news is we don’t need to be.  We just have to be the best us we can be and we are all different.  We often envy others gifts but tend to depreciate our own ones.  I’d love to be able to be able to really play the guitar but after years of trying had to acknowledge I’d never be Clapton or even the busker in the underground!  However, there are some things I find easy and natural that others equally can’t do. 

However, we can expand our repertoire, we can grow our skills base or our mastery of those we already have.  Sometimes though we hide behind comments like “I couldn’t do that” for fear of failure (see lesson 1).

If you actually feel that this is something you wish to invest effort in, ask “What is the first step to learning….?” and then take that!

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