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Grieving is a process that happens when you lose something or someone.  I leant about the stages of this when I trained as a change facilitator as people do grieve for the things they left behind in a the course of Change.  Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross described it as a five stage process:- Denial Anger Bargaining […][...] read more » Grieving

There was some tension in the air at home and I always hate this but couldn’t put my finger on what was causing it.  Then my daughter cracked and said that she didn’t feel all that she was doing was being seen or appreciated.  She didn’t mind doing it but needed to feel that it […][...] read more » The Power of “Thank you”

When you lose someone close to you you are pitched into a place where you have to learn and think about all manner of things that most of us choose to avoid most of the time.  You have to find out how to dispose of a body and think through what should be done with […][...] read more » Last Will

This has been a real lesson.  In work we tend to tick things when they are ‘done’, but in real life progress is more subtle and fragile.  It is much more like gardening, and the tender shoots are very vulnerable when they first emerge.  We have done a great job of pulling together, getting organised […][...] read more » Progress is fragile

I was thinking this morning about my blog and some of the responses that I got to it, and I realised that there are some experiences that just change you in ways that alter your DNA.   People who have not shared those experiences can never understand those who have.  My father’s generation went to war; […][...] read more » I’m different…

I had always felt that we, the great British public, were pretty sick of both politics and politicians, and was not at all surprised by the result, which for me was a pronouncement of “We don’t like/ trust any of you!”  And today we stand on a brand new shore, the first peacetime coalition government […][...] read more » General Election – Change Lesson no3 – All Change!

I know that all of our lives have ups and downs but we seem to be on a rollercoaster ride.  In my last blog, I talked about being forced to stop.  Last week, it got even worse; I had a stupid cold and could barely keep my eyes open.  I spent a week sleeping blowing […][...] read more » Emerging…

For probably the first time in my life, I’ve stopped.  I don’t mean I’m a taking a holiday, or something like that, I mean stopped.  About a month back I had a little medical ‘episode’ and since then I have not been able to drive and things have ground to a halt.  It may have […][...] read more » Stopping is a change too

Those of you of a certain generation might remember Cilla Black singing Burt Bacharach’s lyrics, asking this immortal question “What’s it all about?”   Now I won’t claim ever to have been so arrogant as to have the an answer to this, but I did have a working hypothesis that worked for me.  I was the […][...] read more » What’s it all about Alfie?

We were having a quite day at home and I was doing a few gentle things in the garden. I’d just lit the bonfire and the next thing I knew there was an ambulance man in my lounge! Apparently I’d had a seizure and collapsed. No 2 daughter took charge brilliantly and they arrived in […][...] read more » Oops.. back to the hospital again!